Today I shall discuss the problems faced by married couples in their married life even though they have matched the horoscopes of both beforehand.
‘Marriages are arranged in heaven’ is an old saying. If this is true then is there any need to match the horoscopes before proceeding for the marriage. Yes, it is almost necessary because ancient saints by virtue of their knowledge have found out the factors responsible for disturbances in a married life which otherwise ought to be smooth. They have also revealed the remedial measures to bring the train back on the track.
Whenever, we go to astrologer for matching the horoscope of marriageable boy and girl, we simply ask him to confirm about the number of points (gunas) available in the horoscope of both. When the number exceeds more than 18 out of a total of 36, we become sure that matching is satisfactory. More the numbers more the satisfaction. We do not go beyond that except the Manglik Dosh. Even most of the astrologers generally approve this theory and nod for the marriage. But practically, this is not the only criteria for a successful marriage, I my self have seen the lack of harmony and availability of disturbance in married life of couples who have scored 28 or 32 gunas out of 36. They or their parents raise fingers on the sanctity of the ancient art of astrology. So, whenever marriage is considered, the natal charts of the would-be bride and groom should be thoroughly evaluated for a happy married life. Now let us start from the importance of Gunas.
While matching gunas we consider Ashtakut Guna
| Koot | Max-Marks allotted | Area concerned in life |
| Varan | 1 | Deed |
| Vashya | 2 | Nature |
| | 3 | Destiny |
| Yoni | 4 | Progeny |
| Graha | 5 | Relationship |
| Gana | 6 | Sociality |
| Bhakoot | 7 | Life |
| Nadi | 8 | Longevity |
| Total | 36 | |
As per Indian Astrology texts, if Bhakoota is auspicious, it ensures successful marriage. Gunas are matched on the basis of Ashtkoota. Bhakoota is 7th in the Ashtkoota. Bhakoota is directly related to the mental plane of husband and wife. Bhakoota are known as:
a) 1st and 7th place relation
b) 2nd and 12th place relation
c) 3rd and 11th place relation
d) 4th and 10th place relation
e) 5th and 9th place relation
f) 6th place relation
Combination at S. No. a), c) and d) are considered to be auspicious for matching compatibility. Birth signs of 1st and 7th place from each other get a happy married life blessed with good children.
Similarly placement of birth signs found in 3rd and 11th place from one another’s birth signs bestows financially stability and prosperity in married life. Similarly, if birth signs are in 4th and 10th place the relations will be cordial.
As already discussed, other than ashtkoota
The following problems are generally faced in the married life of a couple:
- Lack of mental compatibility i.e. lack of understanding between the two;
- Delay in marriage;
- Husband harassing the woman on one or other context;
- Woman not obedient i.e. creating unnecessary atmosphere for picking up a quarrel;
- Man may be physically weak;
- Woman may have problem in conceiving;
- Man may have understanding with his wife but not with his in-laws.
- Woman may not like to live with her in-laws;
- There is understanding between husband and wife but they are not living together i.e. man has to go far away for earning the bread;
- There is understanding between the two, but due to feeble finances, woman is not happy;
- Woman doubts her husband integrity and feels sick due to her husband’s affair with other woman. (Sometimes, man has no intention like this, but due to his working environment, he may have the unavoidable company of woman which creates suspense in the mind of woman. Here sometimes, woman’s doubt may be true or it may be simply wrong depending on the history of each case.)
- Case opposite to situation stated in the last para above.
In my next article i will discuss about the other aspects which must be interpreted carefully to make a match a perfect one to avoid any problem in marriage.
